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Yes Girl

25 May

Nine times out of ten I say “YES”. I say yes to my instincts, friends, co-workers, students, and family. I am the woman that believes unless the request is dangerous or wholly contradicts my ultimate goals, I can take part and say YES.

Although I am proud to be a ”YES girl?” I strongly suggest that anyone wanting to say go through the checklist below prior to committing.

- ask questions about timeline and the time commitment expected from you;

- ask about the specifics of your role and;

- ask about the resources available to you and the project in general

These questions should allow you to offer a variation of one of the following responses:

1) YES, I can fully commit, email me all details.Thank you for thinking of me.

2) YES,, I can work on the project but I am limited to …..(state your limited involvement based on your  physical, emotional, or mental limits.)

3) YES, I can support by connecting you with (insert name or tangible resource for the project).

4) unfortunately I am unable to assist as this opportunity does not align with my availability.

Why YES?

I have found that most subjects and skills are interdisciplinary and transferable. I say YES, because my experiences have proven that I am constantly being prepared for my future and that most opportunities enhance a skill or help me to overcome a future challenge.

Ultimately I say YES, for the person who always hears no.

How do you feel about being a “YES,” person?

Below is a link to an article that discusses saying no:

http://www.themavencircle.com/from-yes-girl-to-no-way-how-and-why-i-learned-to-start-saying-no/

 
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Posted by on May 25, 2012 in Personal Processing, Uncategorized, Volunteering

 

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ENDURANCE

04 Mar

Have you ever heard the phrase, “life is not a sprint it is a marathon”?

A marathon is about endurance and everyone who manages to cross the finish line successfully completes the race. Not sure if race is even the right word for a marathon, more like an event. It can be a race, but so many people run marathons to challenge and compete against themselves, not really focused on the concept of beating others or placing first. A marathon is an opportunity for someone to examine their ability to endure.

That’s what I really want to focus on today- endurance-SMART endurance.

At times I find myself running on fumes getting lots of stuff done, but not with very good rhyme or reason behind my actions. Sure, I have tasks to complete, but running thin without clear purpose or goals is taxing. When I begin to feel run down I always have to ask myself am I multi-tasking or multi-achieving- two very different things in my mind.

Achievement implies that I have worked toward completing a goal or task that means something to me. I don’t consider getting things done for the sake of saying, “it’s done”, an achievement. Achievement is not only an action but it is a feeling; you can feel a sense of achievement.  Too many times people go through the motions of tolerating and enduring any situation that they are faced with. This is not necessary.

Instead, we should focus on SMART endurance- tolerating struggles and overcoming obstacles that directly align with our personal SMART goals.

When you have clear SMART goals, your efforts are never in vain, your decision making process begins to make more sense, and you know when and if something is worth enduring.

What do you endure unnecessarily? How have you endured SMARTly?

Ways to Endure SMARTly

  • Look at how you spend your week- How is most of your time spent? Answering phone calls, emails, chatting with friends, business deals, reading, etc.? Become aware of how and WHY you spend your time the way you do.
  • Ask yourself, “Am I satisfied?”- In review, do you think that how you spend your time provides a sense of purpose or well-being? Make sure that you are on the right track.
  • Satisfied or not, create SMART goals- Knowing what you are working toward and how you want to continue or change how you spend your time will help you focus and be intentional with the decisions that follow.

Check out this article below on building resilience in order to better endure. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/resilience/MH00078

 
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Posted by on March 4, 2012 in Life Planning, Personal Processing, S.M.A.R.T. Goals/ Planning, Uncategorized

 

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Coasting to a Full Glass

21 Feb

Coasting…..I am not a person that usually does this.

Lately I have allowed myself to coast…..surrender to His plan instead of my own. I am enjoying coasting. How did I get here? How did I get to a place where I am not stressing or worrying about the next step (Not to be confused with me not caring about the next step)?

Because everything is moving forward and I have stopped trying to control things and instead I allow myself to be in a place of alignment. What do I mean by moving forward? All of the people that I put timelines on and have taken responsibility for are progressing at their best. I hone in on people because it has recently dawned on me that most of my goals and wants involve other people. For example, if I want to go on a cruise with a group of friends there are many steps that involve interacting with other people and systems (still led by people) that affect whether I will go on the trip as planned.

Friends schedules

Friends money

Friends goals for the trip

These are just to name a few, but one of the most important things on my list that cause me stress or to stop coasting when dealing with people is:

TIME

If I ask my friends in December do they want to go on a trip in May but they do not respond until April, I may be out of luck regarding my trip. Fortunately I have been able to coast because all the people that I am currently aligned with and dependent on are working at their best as it relates to interactions with me and my time. Currently all of my relationships, (friends, significant other, family, co-workers, volunteers, etc) are collaborative and I am confident of who is on my team and who cares about working with me (my schedule, my goals, my timelines, etc.). Therefore, I can surrender-no matter what the outcome- because I know that good will is at play.

Have you ever found yourself frustrated, arguing with people while in groups or in organizations, or coming home miserable after work? It is probably because someone in your space is working against you. And I do not mean that they simply disagree with you; they are actually trying to hinder your progress or are careless to your concerns and needs.

After many years of being in negative spaces in which I was forced to be ”on 10″ ALL of the time (i.e. trying to control, out think the next person, and worry about outcomes) , I am now at a place where I can trust that people I am involved with are respectful of my time, circumstances, and goals.

Have you been able to “coast” lately? Have you found alignment with the people (systems included) that you are surrounded by? How does it feel? How has your life improved?

Tips to Coasting

1- Create SMART goals-if you do not have clear goals and priorities for your self you can easily wind up in a place of frustration, anxiety filled experiences, and confusion.

2- Remove the opposition- again, opposition is not people that disagree with you, but those working against you or your agreed upon interactions.

3- Practice peace and appreciation- CHOOSE to be in a peaceful place; CHOOSE to stray away from negativity; CHOOSE to acknowledge good things in your life- the glass should ALWAYS be half full.

Check out this website to fill up your cup:

http://www.terrystarbucker.com/

 
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Posted by on February 21, 2012 in Life Planning, Personal Processing, Uncategorized

 

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