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Shaped by Budget: Aligning Goals with Personal Finances

Do you have champagne taste on a beer budget?

I know I do!!!!!

Every day I realize that I struggle to align my lifestyle (home, car, food, entertainment, etc) with my life plan.

My goals lead to me being a professional artsy community activist, think Augusto Boal. There is really not a lot of money in this, therefore making it hard for me visualize how my goals and passions will pay for multiple degrees and keep up the material luxuries in which I have grown accustomed. I have tried to convince myself that, financially I would be stable if I dwelled in a different area of sweet home Chicago (I live in a high-rise on the North side), drove a less comfortable car (I do have leather seats and a sunroof), and had even more self-control on my dining and drinking tabs.

But all in all, I am not satisfied with the idea of having less material items to keep giving more (everything). My observation is that people living my purpose often take a vow of poverty or take on too many jobs to ensure personal sustainability. The latter can become unhealthy, and my costly living preferences actually allow me to gain more exposure to the world around me.

For example, living on the North side. I chose to live in an area that encourages me to walk or take the bus instead of driving everywhere; that is a green environment so that I can safely enjoy the outdoors and actively think about my carbon footprint; and to be more accessible to people and communities that participate in the arts. This was a strategic decision that I made in hopes of engulfing myself in a space that is a resource for my goals.

But in Chicago, my lifestyle is expensive. I am not sure how to mentally shift and accept that how I live may need to change based on my income activities. I am having this ongoing battle that forces me to ask myself: should I mainly focus on making money now and work on my social activist goals later?

For the most part, I have avoided thinking like this, but as you can see from my article Giving: Time or Money (http://ashleyscwalls.wordpress.com/2011/04/07/giving-time-or-money/) , the issue continues to rise. It does not help that gas prices are exploding, grocery costs make me heave, and funding for social activist causes is decreasing.

Despite conflicts between my finances and my goals, I have been able to remain focused on my passions because of an AMAZING support system. My friends and family continue to assist me both spiritually, financially, and emotionally. I cannot stress the importance of allowing yourself to need and accept assistance from others during a challenging time. As I am working to align my lifestyle with my income, my friends provide some of the simple luxuries a girl needs, such as a night out on the town, or gas money to my next performance.

I came across the article below by Jane Allen that provides some great strategies on how not to sacrifice your passions for survival. Although encouraging, I still believe that my outlook on my personal living preferences must change to fully appreciate the writers advice.

http://www.vault.com/wps/portal/usa/vcm/detail/Career-Advice/Entrepreneurship/Branching-Out:-You-Dont-Have-to-Sacrifice-Passion-for-Survival?id=474

 
 

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Minding My Own Business: Is Being too Concerned Holding Me Back?

I think that I am too concerned with others. I chose the word concerned after playing around with a few different words, but ultimately, concerned summed up the feeling for me. I am not referring to nosey- that’s not one of my consistent character traits. For the purposes of this article, I use the word concerned to mean, thinking about, caring for, responding to, considerate of, and adapting. 

My mother has always referred to me as her “social worker”. I would make friends and accept anyone, treating them no differently than I expect to be treated. As an adult this has continued in my professional, social, and personal relationships. I consistently adjust my schedule to support and suit the needs of others; I find myself thinking about solutions for people’s situations that involve my time and/or resources; and I must admit, I become emotionally affected watching train wrecks of those I love and even those I only know through secondary connections. 

We live in a world with millions and millions of other people. I do believe we are not to try to please everyone, but there are circumstances in which we should consider others before ourselves. So far, my actions of being consistently concerned have led to my reputation as a reliable, compassionate, and effective individual. I am at a crossroads though, one that has me trying to weed out the truth of who I am from the role I have played for twenty something odd years. I am also trying to determine if it is truly so bad to keep being a concerned citizen…even when it inconveniences me. 

My concern with my concern is that I don’t know when to turn it off. I do not know when to stop caring about what is happening with others or the environment around me. Yes, I lose sleep about things that I probably should not. I try to include individuals in projects in which they would probably never think of me. The list can go on and on, but it is starting to bother me (again) because I realize that my concern can actually offend people. 

I am quick to shout out a solution or send an email with resolve, sometimes before others are able to, or choose to act. I will not say that my intentions are purely altruistic. As much as I want to channel my concern to only those that accept it, its hard because I have to play in the sand box with idiots people who don’t know when to stop kicking up the sand! 

I do hope to find balance though. At times, my stepping in is hindering someone else’s growth, even if their inability to be proactive may lead to failure. And I must admit that by lending and ear or a suggestion, I somehow feel responsible for the outcome, thus, making me become more invested in the situation/problem itself. These actions of concern although well-intentioned, have a great effect on my emotions and at times can hinder my personal productivity. While seeking solutions for others, I sometimes feel as though I am missing opportunities for myself. 

 …..Okay, so I’m still undecided about how to show less concern with others. SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME. One thing is for sure, if it involves me- I will be concerned! 

Below is an article that discusses why it is important to consider others in your daily actions. 

http://www.deseretnews.com/article/700022876/We-limit-ourselves-by-not-considering-others-views.html

 
 

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From Multi-Task to Multi-Achieve

From Multi-Task to Multi-Achieve

If there were a hidden camera in my home office, you would notice me in front of a laptop with multiple internet tabs and Microsoft office documents opened, a powered on television, maybe something cooking in the kitchen, and a woman (me) constantly checking her cell phone for text messages, Facebook, and twitter updates. I am guilty of compulsively multi-tasking, but have decided to cut back.

According to Wikipedia, human multi-tasking is 

“the performance by an individual of appearing to handle more than one task at the same time. The term is derived from computer multitasking. An example of multitasking is listening to a radio interview while typing an email. Some believe that multitasking can result in time wasted due to human context switching and apparently causing more errors due to insufficient attention.” 

By reviewing how I schedule my time I am hoping to decrease my multi-tasking while still accomplishing multiple tasks in one day. I have noticed that I am more effective if I work on one single task at a time, even if it is in short spurts. For example, I may spend ten minutes looking at twitter and responding to messages then do the same on Facebook. I then spend the next thirty to forty minutes following up with business in one email account and do the same with my other email accounts in the time that follows. 

I am still completing an ample amount of work, just more efficiently and with a greater sense of confidence in the final product. It has been pretty hard to stop checking my phone as frequently for text messages, but by keeping my ringer on silent it helps a little. 

Please take a few minutes and let me know how you multi-achieve in the comment section.

Below is an article about the self-deceiving assumption of effective human multi-tasking. 

http://timj.testbit.eu/2011/03/31/human-multitasking/

 

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